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31 Aug '18

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Overwhelmed but Still in the Game

By Vega Subramaniam

There are times when I open up my email, and I just want to crawl under the covers and turn it all off. And mind you, I say this as an “Inbox-50” kinda gal. In other words, … Read More

Rebounding from Failure the Counterfactual Way

By Vega Subramaniam

When things go wrong, what questions swirl in your mind?

Perhaps these sound familiar:

  • “How did I let this happen again?”
  • “When will I ever learn?”
  • “Why do I keep doing this?
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It’s February, and I’m still not exercising every week

By Vega Subramaniam

It’s mid-February. Would you look at that.

Mid-February, and already I’m not exercising every week (or ever). I haven’t finished my crochet project. To be sure, I did register for the American Crossword Puzzle Tournament (priorities, people!), but I … Read More

Honoring Our Intent (…to Achieve Our Aspirations)

By Vega Subramaniam

I was talking to my friend Janeen a couple weeks ago about the fact that Mala and I are taking a month right now of what I’m ostentatiously calling a “sabbatical.” We are on a mission to … Read More

21 Nov '17

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As the Holidays Descend Upon Us…

By Vega Subramaniam

Ah, the holiday season. What is it about this time of year that I find so…unnecessary?

I kid.

I am sure there are people out there who have an uncomplicated, wholly joyous relationship to the holiday season. … Read More

When ‘Positivity’ Is Positively Furious

By Vega Subramaniam

I’m a born Pollyanna. As friends used to say, “Of course you’d stand up for [insert annoying colleague who did a stupid thing]; you never say anything mean about anybody.”

Fair enough. But it’s been … Read More

You Tell ME: Why DO You Always Do This To Yourself?

By Vega Subramaniam

There are certain questions I hear people ask themselves out loud a lot:

“Why do I always let the mail pile up like this?!” “Why can’t I ever get anything done on time?!” “Why do I … Read More

30 Aug '17

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Of Brains, Databases, and Self-Affirmation

By Vega Subramaniam

What we want, a lot of us, is to face life with confidence and contentment, and to make a difference.

A requirement of building confidence and contentment, if I may posit, is maintaining an accurate inventory … Read More

Decision-Making, Activism, and Charlottesville

By Mala Nagarajan

Honestly, the last time I thought deeply about Charlottesville was in the early 1980s, when the 7-foot-4-inch phenom Ralph Simpson was leading the University of Virginia Cavaliers into the NCAA’s Collegiate Men’s Basketball Tournament (aka March Madness). … Read More

03 Mar '17

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Optimism is a Form of Resistance

By Vega Subramaniam

My friend Ericka said that to me the other day: “Optimism is a form of resistance.” And it occurred to me just how impossible it feels to be pessimistic right now. My entire being would reject … Read More

The Person I Could Have Been

By Vega Subramaniam

This is for all of you who are filled with regret about choices you made, paths you took, your foolishness, your failures.

Some of you may have heard that the definition of hell is, on your last … Read More

09 Dec '16

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It’s All Skill Development

By Vega Subramaniam

It’s All Skill Development

“Of course you’re creative” (or “a leader” or “talented”). “You just need to change your attitude. Don’t be so negative.” “You’re too insecure. You should have more self-esteem.”

All things … Read More

What Just Happened?

By Vega Subramaniam

Well. Here we are.

As a youth, I was clear that I was a citizen of the world. Political boundaries were irrelevant. I held that clarity while also acknowledging that I was an American and that this … Read More

02 Jun '16

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Changing a Habit is Hard! And How to Do It Anyway

By Vega Subramaniam

I just read Gretchen Rubin’s “4 Strategies to Change Your Habits that Actually Work” on Fast Company. And yes, the suggestions she offers would support your habit change — using a clean slate as an opportunity to break … Read More

How to Overcome Your Decision-Making Hurdles: Part One

By Vega Subramaniam

Decision making is hard

Mala and I had the pleasure of spending a couple hours recently with some Intentional Life Planning participants during our follow-up session on decision-making.

We came to talk about what helps us make good … Read More

The Autumn That Could Be

By Vega Subramaniam

Last week’s New York Times article The Summer That Never Was got me to wondering how common author Tim Kreider’s experience is: his sense of foreboding and gloom, lost opportunities and lost time as autumn approaches. … Read More

Autumnal Equinox: A Time for Rejuvenation

By Vega Subramaniam

The onset of autumn always fills me with a sense of anticipation. I have a visceral response to the changes in the air that come with the start of the academic year. I was one of the … Read More

A True North: Building A Map to The Life You Want to Live

By Mala Nagarajan

When Vega or I tell people that we’ve held our own personal strategic planning retreat every year for the past 12 years, we’re apt to get curious, astonished looks. And as often as not, we’re asked what … Read More